Imago Relationship Therapy is the name given to an effective way of working with couples created by Harville Hendrix, PhD.
Dr. Hendrix wrote the best-selling book Getting The Love You Want – A Guide For Couples, as well as other books. He has been a featured guest on the Oprah Winfrey Show, demonstrating the effective techniques and bringing live testimonies of couples.
David was in the last training group of practitioners to be certified by Dr. Hendrix himself in New York City. He has been using the Imago system along with his other skills for 10 years.
IMAGO is from the Latin word for image. It refers to the inner image we form in childhood of the character traits of our ideal mate. Much of this is in our unconscious and we are not aware of it when we go about selecting a mate. That is why we usually pick someone with whom, on the surface at least, we are often incompatible!
But there is always a greater wisdom in our choice of a mate! While our ego wants to feel good and be happy in relationship, the Soul has a whole different agenda!... and that agenda is about healing and becoming more whole. This requires moving from unconsciousness, through the normal power struggles of committed relationship, to the awareness of who we are. Then we can extend ourselves for the purpose of nurturing our partner’s personal and spiritual growth. This is conscious loving!
The process of IMAGO helps couples achieve this goal! David has had the experience of bringing couples back from the brink of divorce using this methodology. He can provide references.
Also, check the Imago website www.ImagoRelationships.org.
Irene M. Tomkinson, MSW
David Tomkinson, M.Div.
Certified Imago Relationship Therapist